'A' Word Verses The 'F' Word

          You’ve probably heard this before, women hate each other. We gossip, throw indirect jabs and steal each other’s man. We even befriend each other just to compare lives. Well, that’s not always true. You may think I’m lying, sometimes I think I’m lying to myself. Women don’t always hate each other. We just seem to be rivaling siblings sometimes. Yes. Siblings. When two little girls grow up together, they are each other’s play sister until they build that unbreakable bond. Its when they had gone through hormones together, first boyfriends, their first periods and choosing a college. The sad part about women and this sisterly bond stage is, it only happens during adolescences. Makes me wonder if women can build that bond during their own journey in life?

          Seems to me that we women make our bestest friends when we are lost. Never knowing what we want out of life. She [the long-time friend] was there to listen to all the bullshit babble, tears and fears only because she didn’t know what to expect either. She was our same age. We grew together and understood the same failures. I suspect older women hardly make that bond with other older women because we have already learned our paths before ‘she’ made an appearance. Independent women don’t need that helping hand. They are fully aware of what they want out of life and if she is ever at a lost, she already has a best friend to lean on. She completely cuts off making close friends only having new acquaintances.

          The dreaded ‘A’ word. Why do we cut off making new friends only to have more new acquaintances? I believe it’s the feeling of being backstabbed too much by the ex-new friend. The ‘ex-new friend’ is the reason we have stopped sharing that bond with the new pretty girl in class or work. Yes she looks like you have the same interests and morals, but the sheer idea of her actually being a ‘play’ sister is frightening! There is a possible way of ditching the ‘A’ word and accepting the ‘F’ word more often.

          Chapters, portraits and puzzles; share one idea and that’s you as the whole picture. If we go around dissing each other, then there is no solution to the old problem. It starts with you and how you view yourself. We Women don’t actually hate each other; we are just used to the bickering, teasing and taunting we get from our siblings. The jealous feeling when your sister gets praise from the parents [society]. You’ve heard that old saying “You’re only as good as your friends.”, right? Well how good are you if you don’t have any?